Wednesday, December 17, 2014

Dear CEO, What is your happiness / wellness strategy in 2015?


Dear CEO, 

As you know, your organizational values are of the utmost importance to guide the effort of the workforce who forwards your cause day in and day out.

These values are in fact the glue that keep your team bonded and your organization run effectively.

They are the guiding principles and target of each thought and behavior of your employees.

POP QUIZ

Do you know the values of your organization?

Do you stumble on the words or  have to look it up on the corporate website?

How much do you really care, adhere, teach, mentor and embody those values?



This is a place of improvement for a lot of CEOs.

Bringing it back to the basics.

Over the course of almost 20 years, I have worked with many CEOs and organizations to help embody the values of the organization.

POP QUIZ

How many of them had happiness or positivity as a value?

Rare.



Until now, more and more CEOs are valuing their own happiness and health and those of their workforce more than ever before!

Unfortunately it is because all of you have seen to much stress, strokes, depression disability from the people you see day in and day out working for your cause.

With the new corporate wellness laws, corporations and CEOs are more than ever espousing values of health, happiness, and give the message ‘I care about you.’

POP QUIZ

What are you doing in 2015 to show your employees you care about them?

What are you doing to teach the values for sustainability & performance in your organization?

If you so choose happiness, positivity, health, well being, or anything of the sort as at least one of the values of your company, I can provide 5 tips to begin the dynamic spread of happiness in your company.


  1. Teach everyone they are in charge of their own happiness (wellness, positivity, etc) – personal responsibility is key
  2. Embody a positive attitude & encourage daily positive mood boosting activities
  3. Embody & teach practical tools for resiliency
  4. Encourage your workforce to be true to themselves, develop a deeper meaning & purpose through their work while utilizing their natural strengths
  5. Encourage & embody a spiritual practice – meditation, church going, religious holiday celebration, visits to nature, whatever ‘spiritual’ means to you

Before wellness technology and positive psychology, there are statistics that show your wellness program ROI will take 3-5 years to pay off.  Here is a great 2010 Harvard Business Review article on the ROI of major corporations from their wellness initiatives. 

With wellness technology & advances in positive psychology you can see progress within weeks and months with real time data. The times have changed!



You can influence and enhance the well being in your company simply by teaching happiness science to your employees.

These 5 tips will spread the positivity in your organization up to 3 degrees as shown by Harvard Research.

POP QUIZ

What is your depression disability cost annually? 

On average, American companies pay 4 Billion dollars a year in this category!

Would you like to see this number disappear?
Would you like to see smiles instead of stress in your office?

This is a special time in history where your organization can offer happiness at work in a proactive, productive and profitable way. 

Is it time to “spread happiness aggressively” in 2015 in your organization?  That is an actual quote from one CEO who has experienced a 50% growth rate in 2014.

He is able to track his numbers in happiness amongst his employees for the first time and now he wants to see them grow.

What is your happiness / wellness strategy in 2015?

If you want a taste of this dynamic spread of happiness, here is a 9 minute video.



Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness Doctor
Author of Forthcoming Book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps
sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com



Friday, December 12, 2014

Happy Idiot Syndrome : Defacing the Myth



TOP QUESTION: If you are happy does that mean you are out of touch with reality? 
i.e. Are you a happy idiot?

EXPERT ANSWER: Harvard, Stanford, and University of California all teach happiness science.        <wait for audience response>

SARCASTIC RESPONSE: Are America’s top universities teaching Idiots?! I think not!

                                                                                                                                                                   

As I champion the message of sustainable happiness day in and day out to all walks of life from housewives to state Judges, I quite commonly get asked about the “Happy Idiot” Syndrome.

Generational, Societal, Cultural, Scientific, and Spiritual messages are wrapped up in the human experience of happiness.

The message of the happy idiot syndrome must change just as much as the message of the ‘pursuit’ of happiness. Respectively the inaccurate messages are "you are dumb if you are happy" and "you can achieve sustainable happiness outside of yourself."

What does it really mean to be a happy idiot?

A happy idiot connotes, a person who is out of touch with reality and is ignorant of all the terrible things happening in the world.

Surely, if the happy idiot knew about the war, homelessness, slavery, disaster, and the list is endless, they would not be happy!

This common way of thinking must change.

It must become updated to the current view of happiness science where one actually has control of your emotional state and you learn how to be happy just like any other topic in your life.

Let’s take a bird’s eye view….

You want world peace right?

Arguably, most people on Earth would agree they would desire peace on Earth.

If this was so, people would be laughing and smiling. 

People would be happy and healthy. 

This begins with you.

You making the happiness decision

To be happy right now.

In the first step of sustainable happiness, you become empowered over your own happiness.

This means you actually sign a declaration written by Lionel Ketchian, Founder of The Happiness Clubs Worldwide.

I ____ <insert your name>

Do solemnly decide
to adopt the happiness decision
By being happy now

Rather than react to my problems
I will use happiness to respond to them
Forsaking all negative thoughts

Regardless of circumstances,
I all ways I will choose happiness
For the rest of my life.

This seems easy to do yet let me highlight the two main challenges where the work comes in:

Forsaking all negative thoughts
And
Responding to circumstances with happiness

Those two intentions are what will help to create peace on Earth.

When you are positive thinking, your brain is expanding and working at an optimal state. Here is an excerpt from an informative and practical report conducted by the Mayo Clinic:

The health benefits of positive thinking

Researchers continue to explore the effects of positive thinking and optimism on health. Health benefits that positive thinking may provide include:
  • Increased life span
  • Lower rates of depression
  • Lower levels of distress
  • Greater resistance to the common cold
  • Better psychological and physical well-being
  • Reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease
  • Better coping skills during hardships and times of stress



And when you are responding to circumstances with happiness, you are solution focused with a bent toward high emotional intelligence, thus tackling the challenge with a flourishing mind and solution focused mindset.

By all means, I am not encouraging you to stick your head in the sand and ignore the world’s suffering.

I am encouraging you to take charge of your own happiness instead of waiting for the world’s suffering to end because then you can become part of the solution with a clear working mindset and the ability to creatively problem solve to help in stopping the daily devastations.

Let’s move from the myth of the happy idiot to the truth of the creative change makers.

My thinking on happiness is influenced by people who have PhDs, MDs, ancient philosophers, spiritual gurus, a Nobel Peace nominee, and empirically based data. 

Different than a ‘Happy Idiot.”


Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness Doctor
Author of Forthcoming Book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps
sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com

Friday, November 28, 2014

Toward Gratitude Embodiment




This blog is outlined with my personal experience of gratitude, the current state of Thanksgiving celebration (admittingly with sarcasm and a bent toward vegetarianism), and a practical approach to implementing gratitude as a daily practice with a goal of gratitude embodiment.

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In 1995 when I was 19 years old, I packed my car and drove to Hollywood, CA. 3,000 miles away from my hometown is where I found my deep long lasting gratitude in life.



Here is my path to the embodiment of gratitude.
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I grew up in a privileged community, where the streets are safe, there are rarely any crimes, and in fact, no fast food restaurants were allowed in city limits.

My family was ‘normal.’ I had loving parents, a younger sister and a dog named Bliss.  I played athletics and had fun with my friends.

After high school, instead of accepting two full ride scholarship opportunities for athletics, I worked three jobs and followed my dreams to California. Little did I know the profound awakening I would have to the deepest sense of gratitude imaginable.

This was my first experience living outside of my suburban ‘bubble.’

While living for 3 months in the center of Hollywood, I encountered the following for the first time in my life:

Homelessness
10 year old gang members selling crack
14 year old male and female prostitutes
A land lady with multiple personality disorder – who lived next door
Skunks in the garage
People who would talk to you only if you could do something for them
A $5 Christmas bonus from a billion dollar family

In one of my first days of beginning my California dreams, I was looking for an apartment.  I was driving down Hollywood Boulevard at 7am on a Saturday morning and I saw something that would be placed in my memory forever.  

I watched a man barely crawl as he was dragging himself on the sidewalk.  He was dirty and dressed in rags.  He had no legs, no wheelchair and no one around him. 


This was one of the most pitiful moments I experienced that made me reflect on exactly what I had in life that a lot of others were without.

Health
Love
Kindness
Support
Safety
Encouragement
Opportunity

Just to name a few. 

After three months of giving the Hollywood life a ‘go’, I decided to move back home to pursue college education.

I would have never guessed how this short trip would have spearheaded my education all the way from age 20 – 32. 

Showing me the value of education was just one lesson Hollywood shared with me, the other was a profound sense of gratitude that actually put me into therapy.

Upon my return home, I would cry every moment I realized a sense of privilege in my life.  I literally was balling my eyes out one day while reading each chapter of Chicken Soup for the Soul. 

It became my mission to become a Gratitude Ambassador and espouse this value on younger generations (whom I was coaching in sport). I wanted to impart on to them, exactly how much privilege they have in life.  I did my best to enlighten them the only problem they have in life is to know where they are going for midwinter break and that was a blessing!

After a few months of literally crying over French fries at a diner  (because I was so grateful for food, warmth and safety) I decided to go to see a therapist.

I became an endless pool filled with tears of gratitude.

After a few sessions of therapy, I understood what was happening to me and I was okay with it.

I built my character strength of gratitude. Gratitude is a psychological state that aids in boosting happiness. My tears of gratitude actually led me to access tear based states of joy and bliss.

It is a skill and a practice.

It is a prized human experience as it allows your heart to open, expand, breath deep, and open to a sense of fulfillment and contentment. 

In the immortal words of the singer Sheryl Crow, ‘It’s not what you want, it’s what you got.”


I found out gratitude is my second greatest strength and I was in the 100 percentile of my experience.

Now, I teach gratitude in my 5 step process of sustainable happiness.

It is based in step 2: creating a positive mood and is encouraged as part of a daily morning routine with special guidance. 

_________

This life event triggered the profound sense of gratitude, which has become more of an embodiment over my lifetime.  In 2007, I published a chapter in a book similar to Chicken Soup for the Soul, yet it highlighted stories of inspiration in tragedy when gratitude literally seems impossible. This chapter takes a view of how I look at a lot of the life challenges I encountered through the lens of gratitude. The chapter is called Thank God I was Fat, Ugly, Poor, Divorced and live in Chronic Pain.  The theme of the chapter explained how I came to understand sustainable happiness was within myself.

_________

NOTE - Even though my childhood years were mostly happy and care free, I had many larger challenges over the course of my lifetime.

_________

When it comes to Thanksgiving and when the rest of America focuses on their gratitude, it makes me reflect even deeper at the collectivist messages of a profound character strength.

_________

In 2014, never would I have guessed my current thinking around this gratitude based holiday would have become so extreme.

_________

I have witnessed Americans fight and turkeys die.

Days prior to Thanksgiving, Americans are in uproar and violent protests for racism.

I hear about turkeys attacking humans ?!

(My grandparents own land where wild turkeys live.  It is hard for me to imagine this!)

I watched a video where the President ‘pardons’ a turkey from being slaughtered and he calls it ‘puzzling’. Later this video would go viral due to social criticism.

_________

Most of the American population celebrated this holiday with eating a turkey. A lot of organizations and values of thought are against this mass slaughtering of an animal for human celebration. Therefore, creating a controversy akin to abortion!

_________

I even saw a cartoon where an American Childhood icon, Big Bird of Sesame Street was dead and decapitated in the center of the table.   His ‘friends’ from Sesame Street were looking like they could hardly wait to ‘devour’ him. 



_________

Gratitude is practiced while feasting around a dead animal, drinking intoxicants, & watching violent sports.

_________

And the good ole American way, espouses the ‘pursuit’ of happiness so of course the conversations in the media and among social circles is one of consumerism on the following day, ‘Black Friday.’ Which is racially controversial.

_________

At the end of the day, people pass out due to the tryptophan in turkey, and drift away in the midst of intoxification, family drama, with violent sport highlights swarming among their heads anticipating consumerism early the following morning.

_________

Not to mention all the violence that breaks out in shopping malls and stores, as Americans must ‘get the best deal’ putting their fellow humanity behind obtaining the right object for the right price. Promoting materialism.

Mass Slaughter, Intoxification, Violent Sports, Consumerism, Materialism

Seem to be the current celebration of Thanksgiving.

It’s nice that Americans want to think about gratitude once a year wrapped in the gift wrap of killing, drinking, attack, buying, and having. <insert sarcasm>

How does this truly reflect the essence of Gratitude?

You may wonder, what I did on Thanksgiving. I consciously created grateful thoughts moment to moment. I spent the day with loved ones providing acts of kindness, fasted in the name of all turkeys, and watched a movie on a natural disaster where a family beats the impossible and survives thus furthering my gratitude awareness even deeper.

Instead of thinking about gratitude once a year through a warped lens, I encourage you to move toward the embodiment of gratitude.

_________

I would love to introduce a new way for Americans and others around the world to develop a daily gratitude practice that touches your heart instead of leading you astray. 




5 Steps to experiencing Gratitude Daily

  1. Pick something you do everyday (brushing teeth, drinking coffee, exercise, shower, etc)
  2. Decide to do a gratitude practice during this time
  3. Set a time to start and end your gratitude practice (30 seconds to 1 min)
  4. Use the structure: "I am grateful for ____ because it adds ____ to my life."
  5. Never repeat.




Dr. Bob teaches the difference between gratitude and appreciation being gratitude is the output and appreciation is the input.

Jinendra Swami, Messenger of Sustainable Happiness taught me how to access deep gratitude by teaching me the structure of gratitude.

I remember one conversation with Swami Jinendra where he coyly said,

“Aymee, if you are breathing, you need to be grateful.”

It is true, you are given the gift of life; to experience it, to be in it, to have the human experience.

We can move away from the messages of astray during this time of year and ‘boil’ our experience down to the simplest of life; a single breath.

Imagine our global population moving to become gratitude embodiment. 

Where each thought was grateful. 

We are grateful for our breath, our legs, our food, our shelter, our family, our pets, our parks, our planet, and the list is infinite.

I inspire you to adopt a gratitude practice daily with the goal of becoming an embodiment of gratitude.

Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness Doctor
Author of Forthcoming Book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps
sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Ode to Dr Bob at The Happiness Club - A Sustainable Happiness Mentor



There have been a few leading mentors I have found when it comes to sustainable happiness. Learning from real people who have sustained their happiness greater than 20 years are the people who have taught me everything they know.

One of my main teachers is Dr. Bob Nozik, Professor Emeritus at the University of California in San Francisco.  He was a Physician and Ophthalmologist who specialized in UV-Itis and now he is retired and teaching happiness.  It took him 20 years to develop his almost 30 years of sustainable happiness.

He has written the best book I have found on sustainable happiness to date and is the only required reading in the leadership program called The Happiness Makeover. His book is called Happy 4 Life: Here’s How to do it 

Dr. Bob has mentored me through challenges in all area of my life including academic, professional, family, love, and personal. 

Sometimes I would call him with my extreme challenges and ask “How can I possibly be happy about <fill in the blank>?”

He always had an answer for me and never once failed in ‘showing me the light’ in any possible challenge I could suggest. 

Since 2003, we have worked together in many ways and recently he invited me to his happiness club meeting in Lafayette, CA.  About 30 people were in attendance and I was to discuss Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps. 

One month prior was Dr. Bob’s 80th birthday, so I decided to do something special.  I wrote him an ODE and gave him 2 meaningful gifts.  One gift was a picture of him and I in a frame that looks like we are on television. This is because we once tackled producing a television show on happiness together that ended up giving us both a lot of laughs! The second is a frame with Dr Bob and Lionel Ketchian.  Lionel is the founder of The Happiness Clubs worldwide.   This is special relationship because Dr Bob and Lionel have been sustainable happy for a combined 52 years!   

His life and teachings have been so incredibly impactful in my life and those I teach I wanted to share with you this special moment in time capturing one of my favorite sustainable happiness teachers. 




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Dr Bob, You have helped me see the color of life through so many lenses <3

ODE TO DR BOB

Without Thee
I would have
Never seen
That which
Takes those
Opposite of Bliss

You have empowered
Me beyond my
Own belief

Through thick and thin
You have
Been there
Around each
Corner to
Smile with
Me to help
Me see the
Biggest and most
Powerful
Path to
Inner Enlightenment
And Inner Peace
Through the
Overcoming of
Whatever life
May have
Shown me.

I on behalf
Of all those
You have touched
Are graced
With your
Wisdom.

Our lives
Have changed

Acceptance, 
Self Love
Self Esteem
Handling mistakes
Gratitude and Appreciation
Present moment living
Pollyanna’s game
Optimism

LASTING HAPPINESS

Most of all the
The biggest gift
I an everyone
Has seen is the opportunity
To grow and change
By identifying
The inner critic

This beast
This illusion
This self creation
Is someone
Who
Blocks everyone
From that
Which
Whom we are all
Meant to be

Thank you Dr Bob for giving
Us this gift
That lets us
See and
Be set free!!!

If you want to see me weep tears of joy while reading the poem or listen to me talk about Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps, you can watch this video of The Happiness Club.


Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness Doctor
Author of Forthcoming Book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps
sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com