How to stop depression
during break ups is the question.
PROBLEM :
DEPRESSION DUE TO A BREAK
UP
Depression is likely to
ensue for a lot of people during a break up. One of my friends was depressed
for over a year because she lost the one she loved.
After seeing someone I care
about so deeply suffer for such a long time, I was inspired to create the ‘Break Up
Formula’ so you can be happy even in a break up.
This formula helps you
navigate the waters of separation and love and everything that comes with it.
According to the law
of ‘practice makes perfect’ you would think most of you would be Olympian
level Break Up Artists. Yet most of you suffer each and every time.
In the work of a happiness
expert, I see many people looking for help with depression during this time of
life.
After a Break Up . . .
Obsessive thoughts creep in
Heartbreak Ensues
Self Criticism is Ramped
Tears in the middle of the
day
Isolation
Over Eating
Woe is me
Pessimistic Thinking
Sound familiar?
SOLUTION :
5 STEP BREAK UP FORMULA FOR
HAPPINESS IN A BREAK UP
Your break ups can be
filled with love, happiness, empowerment, support, kindness, gratitude,
nonattachment and well wishes. It is possible to feel full hearted instead of
broken hearted at the onset of a break up.
This requires a significant
amount of psychological prowess and mastery.
The time frame for this
formula is up to you. You can move through the steps as it feels natural.
Instead of being at the
whim of an emotional roller coaster when it comes to separation and love it is
quite possible to be in your own upward spiral of love and happiness no matter
the person or situation at hand.
The Break Up Formula
1. Acknowledge
the break up
2. Accept
the break up
3. Identify
learning lessons
4. Gratitude
for learning
5. Let Go
and Fill up
First and foremost it is
imperative for you to voice the break up to yourself and your partner.
Second, truly come to
acceptance this person is better in separation than partnership. This could
take time and I would recommend using my ‘5 Step Acceptance Model’ to help
guide your thinking in this stage.
Third, each relationship
contributes to your growth. What did you learn about yourself and yourself in
relationship?
Next, use the format, I am
grateful for ____ (fill in from fourth step) because it adds ___ to my life.
Note what was added to your life because of the time spent with this person.
Finally, the Letting Go and
Filling up exercise is a psycho somatic (mind/body) exercise that requires deep
explanation and careful professional attention. You can contact me for further
instruction in this stage, yet in brief, it is time to let go of your
attachment to this person and fill up with your own self love.
When you have completed all
five steps, you will experience a sense of relief, contentment, or even bliss.
As you are navigating the
waters of dating and relationships, a prized skill in successful relating is
being able to be responsible for your own self love and happiness.
Do you want to contribute
to this conversation?
Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness
Doctor
Author of Forthcoming Book
: Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps
Sfhappinessdoctor at gmail
dot com
