Showing posts with label optimism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label optimism. Show all posts

Monday, October 13, 2014

Accuracy in the PRESS

My first press appearance was in the New York Times in 2008 for the Happiness Makeover. A reporter interviewed me about the profession of happiness and on Thanksgiving Day, I saw a photo of myself in a major news publication.



Since then, my work has been featured on

Television
PBS, CBS, FOX & news I have consulted on has appeared on numerous local news channels around the country.

Magazines
Health Magazine, Self Magazine, Shape Magazine, Dr Oz Magazine, Sunset Magazine, and a French Travel Magazine

Newspapers
New York Times
Michigan
West Virginia
Bhutan
India

I have been asked to promote different causes and consulted on national topics like the future of happiness in America.

Usually when I am consulted by the media, there is someone who follows up to check the facts regarding any issue before it is launched into national publication or air time.

In my debut of the Dr Oz Magazine in the article of 8 Bright Ways to Feel more Positive, unfortunately there have been a few minor or major non facts depending on how you look at it mis-facts.

The journalist told me I would be interviewed for the topic of optimism.

After a 30 minute conversation, I was satisfied I gave a number of serious scientific advances in this topic area.

When the publication was on the newsstand, in every Whole Foods in America, I was a bit astounded at what I saw.

When I turned to page 138, I observed the following:

1) I was called a Psychologist.

2) My book was mentioned as if it was already released.

3) My name and comments were used to sell something.

If a fact checker were to have notified me prior to publishing this, I would have said…

1)   I am a Happiness Expert, instead of a Psychologist. My training is not of clinical psychology nor am I licensed to diagnose, let alone been trained in the disease model of mental health.  To set the record straight, my PhD is in organizational psychology with an emphasis in positive psychology and leadership. This has been my focus in my undergrad is in industrial and organizational psychology with an emphasis in employee happiness.  So after studying and teaching happiness for 18 years specifically which is not taught in traditional clinical programs, the proper way to refer to my profession is that of a Happiness Expert instead of a Psychologist.

2)    I am so excited for my book to be released!  It is published and ready for you yet I am working on finishing touches before it is ready to be available. If I was notified by a fact checker, I would have requested a word ‘forthcoming’ be put before my book was released.

3)    Usually if my name or expertise is used to sell something, I am notified. I have no opinion on the art supplies promoted on page 138 with my comment yet I do endorse art as a way to express yourself. If I was notified by a fact checker then I would have done due diligence in the product being endorsed.

In the world of media, after my involvement in a variety of ways, I noticed the importance of fact checking when it comes to large scale communication.

The Dr Oz magazine was my only experience thus far that failed to fact check, I understand this to be the first issue so perhaps the publication will learn for the second edition.

In the meantime, I contacted the journalist and the editor and asked for the changes to be made.

All in all, I AM HAPPY GRATEFUL AND OPTIMISTIC about the Dr Oz magazine and Dr Oz.  Though I do adhere to the importance of fact checking before publicizing.





As happiness science continues to evolve, your source of truth is of utmost importance. 

I will continue to speak out for a voice in leadership, positive psychology, global psychology and the media. 

Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness Doctor
Author of Forthcoming Book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps
sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com

Saturday, June 28, 2014

Sustainable Happiness: Attention Pessimists

PESSIMISM - a tendency to see the worst aspect of things or believe that the worst will happen; a lack of hope or confidence in the future. A belief that this world is as bad as it could be or that evil will ultimately prevail over good.

OPTIMISM - hopefulness and confidence about the future or the successful outcome of something. The doctrine, especially as set forth by 17th/18th century German philosopher Leibniz, that this world is the best of all possible worlds.

Introducing…

REALISTIC OPTIMISM - A realistic optimist is defined as someone who looks on the bright side of life but has a realistic grasp on the present and what to expect in life.

Backlash, disbelief, disgust, false accusations, a keen dismissal, signs of anti-Pollyanna, unbelievable, out of touch with reality, insults, judgment, criticism, skeptical, point of making fun, happy idiot syndrome, impossible.

Signs of a pessimist in a conversation on happiness are highly apparent.

People have written books, articles, tv appearances all negating the positive effects positive psychology can have on someone’s life.

It is really hard to believe that America’s population is 17% optimally functioning and one in four people has a mental disorder.

So it never surprises me when I come across someone who has a hard time believing in the power of positivity.

The role of pessimism and optimism in sustainable happiness is a very important point to address.

Jinendra Swami, Messenger of Sustainable Happiness, taught me, ‘What you mind believes your body will achieve”

Dr Robert Muller, Holocaust survivor, Nobel Peace Award Nominee, Former Assistant Secretary General of the United Nations, Author of ‘Most of all they Taught me Happiness’ taught me about the power of intention.

When your intention and your beliefs align in a positive direction you are able to enhance your human experience.

During the dance of conflict in a conversation concerning sustainable happiness, I introduce the concept of realistic optimism.

A middle road of pessimism and optimism.

The main difference between the two is the notion of hope and empowerment.

Moving from hopeless to hopeful is a dynamic shift in your psychology.  One I have experienced multiple times.

When people have given up hope on traditional methods of feeling better, they are hopeless and pessimistic.

When discovering a sustainable happiness doctor or positive psychology, a lot of times, people cloud the experience with a projection that ‘this will never work’, ‘I’m your worst client’, ‘nothing works for me’

Encountering this mindset over and over, I see change.  I see results. I see hope when there was no hope.  I see happiness when there was depression.

In 2007, researchers at NYU discovered the optimism center of your brain. This point in the brain can be a cause of depression if not exercised. 

Here is a brain image: showing greater activity in brain’s rostral anterior cingulate cortex, 
TOP, and amygdala, BOTTOM, when subjects imagined positive future events.




So when sitting down with a pessimist, I ask…

What is your positive to negative thought ratio?

Usually the answer is tipped in the negative direction.

I use this as a ‘fact’ to show the pessimist that no matter what the topic may be, albeit happiness, marriage, business, etc, because of the skewed way of thinking then I am up against the general negative thinking ratio before I open my mouth.

This is a confronting experience for some as thinking of putting their thought habits in a ratio form is something new.

So I ask you…

What is your positive to negative thought ratio?
Is it what you want it to be?

How often are you feeling bad vs feeling good?

Do you want to change this thought ratio?

When learning the 5 steps to sustainable happiness this is a skill developed in steps two and three: positive mood and resiliency.

Realistic Optimism is key for your sustainable happiness.

Paying attention to developing your own optimism is essential for you to feel better now.

Listen to the discussion I have with @frandrescher about Realistic Optimism



Do you want to contribute to this conversation?

Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness Doctor
Sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com
Author of Forthcoming book – Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps 
www.happinessmakeover.com