QUOTED in Times of India & Mumbai Mirror

I was quoted in two major publications in India on April 18 and July 2 of 2014.

The Times of India: The secret to happiness

Mumbai Mirror : The secret to khushi (happiness)

By Teja Lele Desai

Quotes

Don't look outwards: Seeking external sources of happiness can sabotage your peace. San Francisco-based sustainable happiness expert Dr Aymee Coget suggests, "Focus on controlling your emotional state by choosing happiness and adopting positive psychology principles, build your resilience, follow your heart and meditate into the greatest states of bliss."

Don't fail to live in the moment: "It is our nature to dwell on past events, especially negatives. We need six positives for our brain to overcome what happened in the past. Training our mind to live in the moment — a sink-or-swim skill — is the way to happiness," Coget says. Learn from past mistakes, but live in the present.

Throughout my career as a happiness expert, I have multiple experiences being written up in newspapers from local, national, and international.

Yet this year, I was so touched by being quoted in two major publications in India.

The truths of happiness science combined with the ancient traditions of spiritual bliss have guided my thinking and teaching of my 5 steps to sustainable happiness.

Since 2004, I have studied with Jinendra Swami who specializes in Sustainable Happiness and have practiced Reiki Mastership for thirteen years. Two traditions based in spiritual lineages.

Connecting the new science of happiness with the ancient spiritual traditions has been a wonderful convergence for me.

Since 2011, I have experienced multiple spiritual awakenings and in my first one, the Swami I study with gave me an Indian name, Lakshmi Saraswati – which translates to:

Lakshmi -  Hindu Goddess of wealth, love, prosperity (both material and spiritual), fortune, and the embodiment of beauty.

Saraswati - Hindu Goddess of knowledge, music, arts, wisdom and nature.

Combining what I have learned from happiness science and what I have experienced in spirituality has proved to be a rewarding path!

I have been blessed to receive multiple spiritual awakenings in the last 3 years and this is a gift I hold in my heart very dear.

When I was quoted this past April in the Times of India, I had my largest kundalini awakening which lasted 10 days!

I was unaware the article ran at the time of one of the most intense experiences of my life, in hindsight I wonder about how bringing knowledge of happiness to India had something to do with my most recent spiritual awakening.

This is something I will never know.  Yet I wanted to let the people of India know I hold your history and culture dear to my heart and it meant a lot to be quoted in the major media outlets in your country.  And, it could have led to another spiritual uplift in my life.

May I continue to share the blessings and teachings of sustainable happiness in your lives and beyond!

Om Shanti Om

Dr Aymee Coget

Sustainable Happiness Doctor

Author of Forthcoming Book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps

sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com

www.happinessmakeover.com

5 Steps Audio Program

Beating Break-up Blues in 5 Steps

How to stop depression during break ups is the question.

PROBLEM : 

DEPRESSION DUE TO A BREAK UP

Depression is likely to ensue for a lot of people during a break up. One of my friends was depressed for over a year because she lost the one she loved.

After seeing someone I care about so deeply suffer for such a long time, I was inspired to create the ‘Break Up Formula’ so you can be happy even in a break up.

This formula helps you navigate the waters of separation and love and everything that comes with it.

According to the law of ‘practice makes perfect’ you would think most of you would be Olympian level Break Up Artists. Yet most of you suffer each and every time.

In the work of a happiness expert, I see many people looking for help with depression during this time of life.

After a Break Up . . .

Obsessive thoughts creep in

Heartbreak Ensues

Self Criticism is Ramped

Tears in the middle of the day

Isolation

Over Eating

Woe is me

Pessimistic Thinking

Sound familiar?

SOLUTION :

5 STEP BREAK UP FORMULA FOR HAPPINESS IN A BREAK UP

Your break ups can be filled with love, happiness, empowerment, support, kindness, gratitude, nonattachment and well wishes. It is possible to feel full hearted instead of broken hearted at the onset of a break up.

This requires a significant amount of psychological prowess and mastery.

The time frame for this formula is up to you. You can move through the steps as it feels natural.

Instead of being at the whim of an emotional roller coaster when it comes to separation and love it is quite possible to be in your own upward spiral of love and happiness no matter the person or situation at hand.

The Break Up Formula

1.   Acknowledge the break up

2.   Accept the break up

3.   Identify learning lessons

4.   Gratitude for learning

5.   Let Go and Fill up

First and foremost it is imperative for you to voice the break up to yourself and your partner.

Second, truly come to acceptance this person is better in separation than partnership. This could take time and I would recommend using my ‘5 Step Acceptance Model’ to help guide your thinking in this stage.

Third, each relationship contributes to your growth. What did you learn about yourself and yourself in relationship?

Next, use the format, I am grateful for ____ (fill in from fourth step) because it adds ___ to my life. Note what was added to your life because of the time spent with this person.

Finally, the Letting Go and Filling up exercise is a psycho somatic (mind/body) exercise that requires deep explanation and careful professional attention. You can contact me for further instruction in this stage, yet in brief, it is time to let go of your attachment to this person and fill up with your own self love.

When you have completed all five steps, you will experience a sense of relief, contentment, or even bliss.

As you are navigating the waters of dating and relationships, a prized skill in successful relating is being able to be responsible for your own self love and happiness.

Do you want to contribute to this conversation?

Dr Aymee Coget

Sustainable Happiness Doctor

Author of Forthcoming Book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps

Sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com

www.happinessmakeover.com
5 Steps Audio Program

Break into Bliss by Jumping through Fear

Jump through Fear.

The only way out is through.

Fear is forgetting everything is all right.

Fear is false evidence appearing real.

Your comfort zone is a safe place though it may not be the happiest.

Every day you are confronted with addressing your deepest fears.

Fear of success

Fear of failure

Fear of commitment

Fear of the truth

Fear of the future

Fear of the unknown

Fear of loss

Fear of scarcity

Whatever your fear may be, your fear is here.

Your fear is ever present in your decisions day in and day out.

To keep you in your comfort zone.

Your comfort zone has been built for years probably decades.

Your thoughts and beliefs about these topics of fear have probably traversed generations in your family lineage.

Fear of loss

Fear of success

Fear of commitment

Fear of the truth

Fear of change

The notion of fear is a stumbling block to your highest states of bliss.

This fear is keeping you in sedentary paralysis trapping you inside your semi impermeable bubble of life.

This is subconsciously guiding your every single decision.

Take this in for a minute.

Confront yourself.

What is the fear you have been letting rule your life.

Fear of success?

Fear of true love?

Fear of other’s judgment?

What is the fear that holds you back in your life?

Put a name on it.  

Call it out of the dark of your shadow so you can look at it straight in the eye.

The eye of your subconscious.

Ask yourself: Do I want this fear any more?  Do I want to let this fear go so I can move on with my life?  How is this fear serving my highest flourishing?

Take a moment to wrestle with the truth of this fear.

Examine it. Where did it come from? Is it even TRUE?!

When you enlighten your shadow you are shown that you are the one holding yourself back from achieving the highest path of life.

One in faith.

One in faith in yourself, your path, your inner knowing, your life.

Fear has been instilled at a rudimentary level in the reptilian part of your brain.

You live in 2014 where most live without harm in life and can consciously remove any fear you feel ready to release.

Fear is transformed into faith in Step 5 of my sustainable happiness program.  This faith then enables you to confront your realistic daily decisions in a way where you can achieve ecstatic states of bliss and joy beyond your wildest dreams.

The only way out is through.

Jump from the plane.

Commit to your love.

Address the truth.

Embrace success.

When you can break through fear and embrace your life based on the bedrock of faith is when you can achieve the highest forms of happiness known to humanity.

Stop dancing around your fear.

Stop making excuses for your fear.

Stop letting your false evidence appearing real run your life.

You can gain empowerment over your psychology and you can create change in your life with a simple decision.

Choose faith over fear.

Put your fear in its place.

See it dissipate in front of your face.

You are the one who put it in your psychology you can take it out.

Imagine what your life could look like without fear.

Imagine a lightness of ease and flow in your every step.

Imagine opportunities flying at you; all wanting you to embrace your life at the highest level.

Imagine your bliss being fueled daily as you grow stronger in building your faith while your fear simply evaporates.

You have real examples.

You have real life experiences with fear.

You have let the external world and the power of your subconscious mind control the experience you make for yourself in life.

You are making your own experience.

Make it with faith.

Make it with bliss as your fundamental essence.

How can your upward spiral grow from this place?

The sky is the limit when you walk the path of faith and bliss begets bliss.

You will never go wrong with positivity.

RELEASE YOUR FEARS

EMPOWER YOURSELF

CHOOSE FAITH OVER FEAR

YOUR LIFE WILL CHANGE

Do you want to contribute to this conversation?

Dr Aymee Coget

Sustainable Happiness Doctor

Sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com

Author of forthcoming book : Sustainable Happiness in 5 Steps

www.happinessmakeover.com

5 Steps Audio Program