I can see a flash of ‘does not compute’ behind the listeners’ eyes.
Most understand happiness as an elusive emotion that is surface level; it comes and goes when good things happen in life.
Some would call it woo woo or insignificant.
On the flip side, some people kill themselves because they have given up hope of ever feeling good: happy.
Most subconsciously guide their lives seeking to attain feeling good; happy most of the time.
Pursuit of happiness?
Everyone has their ideas and concepts behind happiness and its relevance in our human experience.
I agree with Aristotle, who noted ‘Happiness is the Goal of all Goals.”
You want ____ because it makes you happy.
Other than purchasing fun objects, going on extravagant vacations and planning for happiness in the future when you have achieved ABC ; what is your strategy for obtaining a life like Shangi-La?
This popular strategy of pursing happiness on the outside, is a FAILED strategy since the World Health Organization espouses 1 in 4 people have depression or some sort of mental illness.
AND, shockingly, only 17% of Americans are flourishing.
Within this externally - driven strategy of pursuing happiness through people, places and things; discontent, emptiness, unhappiness, anxiety, and stress are likely within 3 months.
After 3 months, hedonic adaptation kicks in and your ego wants bigger better more.
This transient happiness will come and go putting you on the hedonic treadmill; always wanting the next big thing.
This type of happiness is called hedonic happiness and is only one of the three types of happiness: hedonic, (emotion) eudaimonic (inner contentment), and chaironic (bliss).
Most of the people who have sought the help of a happiness expert have achieved their goals in love, money, family or career and still have yet to find the secrets of sustaining a frequent positive mood, being resilient in challenging times, a clear path to contentment or a clue on how to achieve states of bliss or joy.
They have yet to discover how to ‘feel good’ in the midst of life’s challenging times when following the stereotypical ‘pursuit of happiness’ strategy as they admit it failed miserably.
I would like to offer an internally -driven strategy based on recent advances in the last ten years from the science of happiness.
Think about it like this, once you learn math, you know it and use it everyday.
Once you learn happiness science, you can know and use it everyday.
If you are ready to indeed take charge of your own happiness and no longer wait around for goal achievement, the right person, the right place, the right career, or the right amount of money; I’d like to offer you a few facts on the possibility that ‘feeling better’ and developing inner peace is possible ir-regardless of your circumstances.
I am only mentioning a few key studies in the blog, there are many others within this new science.
One of the founding papers in Positive Psychology was based on the magical mathematical formula of 3:1. Positive to negative emotional experiences.
This ratio represents the facilitation of an upward spiral (feeling good).
Using the 5 steps of sustainable happiness within a daily practice offers you a positive emotional experience with a ratio of 15:1.
Happiness science has been able to suggest multiple types of positive interventions that do in fact increase your happiness from the inside.
Most people have experienced a downward spiral in life or know someone who has.
Just the simple fact we have this formula alone is Amazing! beyond belief.
Another research paper from Harvard, shows a three degrees of separation for the dynamic spread of happiness. This means your happiness does in fact contribute to the lives around you and we can track it.
Think about it, what is the % of joy you currently experience in life?
That is how much joy you are bringing to the relationships you care about most.
Speaking of %, another Harvard study showed people are mind-wandering 47% of the time. Our population is missing out on half of our waking lives!
Our culture has indoctrinated a lack of present moment awareness as the norm. In fact, our brain is biologically wired to leave the moment making living in the now a prized skill most find an impossible dream.
There are numbers all over happiness science.
Since there are measurements, interventions, results, and tracking, how can you implement happiness science to benefit your life?
Here are some measurements for achieving basic and advanced levels of sustainable happiness.
BASICS
Empowerment: There are a series of activities that when completed there is an increase over perceived control of your emotional stated.
The first step alone is a miracle, a hurdle and a very big challenge for most people. Accepting responsibility for your own happiness is the absolute first step.
Positive Mood: There is a daily routine plan based in proven effective ways of increasing happiness.
Methods used have shown to help change brain chemistry to aid in the treatment of depression, anxiety, add/adhd, bi-polar, and even schizophrenia.
I use the following measurement system to track results:
Where is your happiness on a scale of 1-10 ?
This measurement is measured by two ways of thinking: from the perspective of the mind and the heart. 10 is the happiest you can imagine.
*Granted a lot of people have no idea how happy they are and how happy they could be or how their level 5 happiness relates to someone elses level of happiness. Many times post happiness science implementation people realize how unhappy they really were.
Grade your performance of each of the three daily routines A-F. This is subjective and based in self report yet when given anything less than A level effort the student is put on a strict recovery plan to ensure top quality participation.
What is your positive : negative thought ratio?
What % of time are you living in the moment?
There are exact methods to increase both of these numbers in a relatively quick amount of time within days and weeks.
100 times a day use my 5 steps of living in the moment, once every 5 minutes for an 8 hour time period.
Current smart phone users look at their smart phone 150x a day about once every six minutes, so this direction is in alignment with average behavior.
Resiliency: Practice each of the resiliency tools 5 times a day: measure time frame on how long it takes to ‘bounce back’ from adversity.
ADVANCED
Contentment: Measurements and process are based in research theorizing meaning, authenticity, purpose and strengths. There is a 21 step process clearly laid out developed from the 11 categories of self awareness.
Consider it a yellow brick road to contentment yet the first three steps need to be mastered in order to ready for the deepest levels of contentment.
Bliss: States of bliss can be achieved within 2 minutes or less if you follow direct guidance.
Mastery of the four previous steps is necessary for the highest states of bliss.
Mathematics has clear steps and clear answers.
I have fused together multiple methods within happiness science based on the principles of self leadership to provide a real life practical formula on achieving sustainable happiness.
Imagine seeing on a global level the living in the moment % and the positive thinking ratio?
Imagine seeing on a hospital level how happiness science enhances a patients healing process.
Imagine tracking acts of kindness around the world.
Imagine seeing with your own eyes the movement of people using happiness science daily to enhance their lives and those around them.
Imagine the dynamic spread of happiness set with intention, strategy, and results.
Implementing a clear pathway to sustainable happiness, is the answer to suicide prevention.
It offers a practical method to change lives from depression, anxiety, and stress to empowerment, positivity, resiliency, contentment and bliss.
I know this method can save lives, enhance organizational functioning, quicken healing processes, save marriages, help families and change the world.
I know the global well being index can be increased systematically, effectively, and quickly with the right technology built to unveil the individual happiness process we hold so dear to something open public and discussed on a global level.
What is measured can be increased.
Would you like to be part of this conversation?
Dr Aymee Coget
Sustainable Happiness Doctor
Sfhappinessdoctor at gmail dot com
www.happinessmakeover.com
I believe unhappiness is a learned negative habit. We are programmed to be unhappy by all of the negativity, cynicism and pessimism in the world; and by the misconception that acquiring money and possessions is a measure of happiness. I like your program of encouraging people to practice happiness principles frequently and repeatedly throughout the day. That is the way to extinguish negative habits and replace them with positive habits. Having learned from you the tools to achieve sustainable happiness, I can vouch for the fact that people can direct their mind to extinguish their negativity and replace it with positivity and joy.
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